Come As You Aren’t: A Role Playing Game For Adventurous Couples
[Note: This game was provided free of charge by Blogging For Books/Clarkson Potter Publishers. All thoughts and opinions are my own.]
Even if I am a moderately adventurous person when it comes to my taste in games , I must admit that I do not have a partner and so therefore can only play this game as a sort of wistful thought experiment. Even so, this is the sort of game that it would be easy to have mixed feelings about, at least among the people who read what I write or care about what I think. Those people who are fairly worldly and adventurous will find nothing in here that they have probably not done and may wonder why this is a big deal. On the other hand, there are plenty of people who would find nothing appealing about this game whatsoever. This game is really aimed at a niche audience, those people who fancy themselves to be adventuresome in their own mind but need some suggestions to spur their creative juices (and possibly other juices) to flower and blossom.
The game itself is very simple. There are twenty cards that give roles for one to play, twenty actions that one can do, and twenty places to do these actions in. There is a pad of paper where one can write the time and place to meet up for the adventuresome date, and one picks a card for the role, action, and place and puts it in an envelope for one’s partner. It goes without saying that the sorts of things that one would do are generally only suitable for married couples, given my own particular moral standards and those of many of the people I happen to know, but it is pretty clear that not everyone will feel the same way. It should also be noted that the majority of the roles are given names that could be played by either gender, which means that this game has a great deal of flexibility, avoids gender-specific pronouns and so on. With 20 who, what, and where cards, there are 8000 different combinations that one could play if one wished, an example being the invitation for a partner to play a romantic writer to remove an article of clothing with only his or her mouth in a library, or for a partner to play a billionaire who tells his or her partner that he or she is hot in a grocery store, and so on and so forth.
Whether or not you appreciate this game will depend on quite a few factors. For one, you have to find the prospect of roleplaying with a partner, and having your partner roleplay with you, to be appealing. Given the marked popularity of “mommy porn” like the 50 Shades series, there are many people who find this sort of thing appealing. The actions in this particular game are not usually the sort of thing that will get you arrested and are not something that would seem too risquè for people who were extremely adventurous already, but could easily get some people to be carried away. There are also a lot of things in here that simply aren’t going to be appealing to a lot of people, so if one chooses, one should probably choose wisely, as choosing at random could lead one to fare badly. Like most games of this kind, even games one might make up for oneself, much depends here on trust and communication as well as knowing what you and your (hopefully married) partner enjoy. Some people could find a great deal of fun here, and others will wonder what the big deal is, while others will simply not find this of interest, which is the way that most games work.
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