As I note from time to time , adulting is hard. Today, what I would like to do is to compare different profiles of how people behave and see how it corresponds to successful adulting. We do not have the choice on whether we will become adults and be held responsible as adults once we reach the age of majority. Our only choice in the matter is how we will go about handling those responsibilities and the inevitable situations that occur in the process of living as an adult with personal responsibility for one’s life and its outcomes. To be sure, few people consider this a pleasant matter. With the most resources and most advantageous position possible it is a situation filled with futility and frustration, and for most people being an adult is oppressive and deeply unsatisfying. Nevertheless, the ravages of time are something we can do very little about accept for living as best as we can given the circumstances we have to work with. With that said, let us set some scenes and draw some conclusions.
Earlier today I read of cases where people were fired for missing work in order to support the protests concerning immigration. I cannot say that I have any hostility to legal immigrants myself, having lived abroad myself and having close members of my family that are immigrants, including my maternal grandmother, who was born in Canada. To be sure, I have a problem with illegal immigration, and feel that those forces which encourage and support illegal immigration tend towards corruption within our own country in a variety of ways, but I feel no particular hostility whatsoever to any community of immigrants assuming that they are law-abiding citizens who wish to better themselves and live at peace within the United States. Presumably the people protesting did not have in mind defending the rights of such people whose presence in this country draws no hostility and little comment, and so their firing can be considered as a result of a failure to successfully adult. The freedom to assemble cannot be assumed to be without consequence in our lives, especially as protesting has become synonymous with extralegal coercion on behalf of left-wing political interests.
Today was a rare day off for me, and I had somewhat ambitious plans. In retrospect, those plans were probably too ambitious, as they often are. I had four books to review for my blog and three more to review for various scholarly journals, and while I got my personal blogs done I did not have a chance to write any of the scholarly book reviews which are longer and more detailed and therefore take longer to write. I did manage to do my taxes, though, despite the fact that I struggled with headaches and nosebleeds throughout the day. It was, in short, a day where I did not feel like doing very much but I managed to do my errands and be a somewhat responsible despite not feeling like it. I guess that is what it means to be a successful adult, and that is do what needs to be done even when one does not feel like doing it. I wish it felt better to be an adult, or that I felt more successful as one, but I suppose if I do my best that has to be enough at least for the moment.
I know that I am not the only person who struggles with adulting, nor do I struggle with it worse than others. I know plenty of people who fairly frequently lament how difficult it is to adult. Looking at their situations, I do not disagree with them. There are times, far too many times, where the needs of others far outweigh our own modest ability to meet those needs, despite our best efforts. We live in a world where resources are scarce and people who have them tend to feel insecure about them, and where there are so many needs that we feel hopeless in achieving all that we need for ourselves, much less assisting others in need. It feels often that we are fighting to have our own needs met, and feel that other people are rivals and competitors for the scarce resources that we struggle for of time, money, affection, attention, respect, and so on. The fact that so many adults are like us ought to encourage us, but instead it tends to make us fight all the harder for what we consider to be those resources most in need and most scarce. Empathy is far too often in short supply in our world, alas.
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