We are all connected to other people, whether we like it or not. Our connections are of many different kinds, and many different thicknesses, like the variety of threads that can be used to sow. Our lives are a tapestry of many different kinds of threads, many different colors, qualities, and strands. We do not often stop to think about the links that tie us to other people, as subtle and natural as they appear to us, but sometimes the absence of what is natural or expected can prompt us to reflect a little bit more about such matters.
Such is the case with me. This week I had the odd and unpleasant sensation of finding out what a close family member of mine was doing from two separate parties, neither of which was the family member herself. Now, this person had not been in contact with me on e-mail for at least a couple weeks, or on Facebook for a couple of weeks, and so I was a bit concerned because I had sent a somewhat urgent e-mail about business that needed to be attended to that had not been answered in a week. As it happened within a few minutes of each other I got two messages about at least some of her activities, including a drive to Atlanta to attend a Women’s Conference. I was pleased to see her feeling healthy enough to go, but a bit surprised I had heard nothing about it, or anything else, from her herself.
Obviously, my current state of living on the other side of the world from my friends and family does make it somewhat more of a challenge to keep in touch, as does the fact that the Thai post office seems to enjoy losing mail that is sent to me
on occasion often, especially recently. That said, I make a pretty strong effort at keeping in touch with others, or at least making it possible via several means for people to keep in touch with me and find out what is going on, through Facebook, Linked In, Twitter, and e-mail, at least. Computer difficulties have made it difficult to Skype (since this Mac doesn’t seem to recognize my microphone, which is rather irritating), but I do what I can otherwise. It’s not very easy for me to send messages into the aether or talk about how I’m doing without knowing what others want to hear about, but at least I have no such difficulties in blogging about what I want to talk about.
But it is frustrating when it feels as if others are not putting forth the effort to keep in touch. The threads that connect us to other people are rather thin, especially when they are so far away. There is only so much that can be done by one person to keep up communication when others do not seem able or willing to respond in kind. I personally don’t think I’m that hard of a person to keep in contact with, provided one is willing to do a little bit of effort yourself. I tend to respond to every message that I do not find too insulting, and that means I reply to a lot of messages, and usually pretty quickly as well. I just expect that effort returned. I know life gets busy for all of us, but close relationships are worth keeping up, all it takes is a little will and a little effort. I’m worth it, and if you’re a friend of mine, you are too.