What is our attitude to the happiness of others in love? Do we believe in love and respect and happiness as scarce qualities or do we think there is enough for everyone to share them? Our attitude towards life determines how we think about the happiness and success of others. If we think that there is enough success and enough happiness and enough love for all, we can honestly cheer the happiness and success of others, knowing it is no threat to our well-being. However, if we think that these are scarce, the happiness or success of others is a threat to us by meaning there is a little bit less in the world for us to enjoy, and it may make us fell jealous or unhappy as a result.

It is important to note that our feelings about something are often independent of the actual event themselves. Someone being in love (whether with us or someone else) ought not to bother us at all. We ought to be flattered by any decent person who shows an interest in us, whether we share that interest or not, and we ought to rejoice anytime we see others find love or happiness or success in an endeavor. We will, if we believe that the love of others does not hurt us or threaten us at all. If we believe otherwise, then we will be negatively impacted by the feelings of others, and will be less able to find and appreciate happiness and success ourselves, because our focus will be jealousy of others and not on doing what is necessary to succeed for ourselves.

If there is not enough love in this world, it is not because love is scarce, necessarily, but because not enough people love. We cannot expect people who hold people accountable for the mistakes made by others, or who are poisoned by mistrust and bitterness, to be able to appreciate love or find it easily themselves. We cannot expect people who lack the competence to show respect to others to feel respected by others, because every slight they feel or imagine will be magnified while every slight that they give to others will only appear in their mistaken judgment to be proportionate to the offense they feel. And so the cycles of mistrust and argument will continue unless we break them ourselves.

And doing so requires a change in our mindset, to where we rejoice in the feelings and love of others rather than being upset or bothered by it. After all, every time someone else finds love and happiness and success, it means that they have more goodwill and resources to share with others, and that makes the world at least a little bit happier place as a whole. And that is happiness that we can share in, if we do not despair while we are taking the necessary and difficult work to improve our own patterns of thought and behavior so that we are ready for success in love and life, whenever and however it happens. It is vastly easier said than done, but there is enough love in this world if we are all able to love and to appreciate the love that others have for us. If we can do that, we can find enough love in this world for all of us to share.